Why Your Business Isn’t Stuck—You Are
This week, I’ve been solo dad-ing while Rebekah (my wife) was away at a high-level leadership event with some of our role models.
The kids were great for me. Easy, even. But me? I’ve been hard for me. Sailing the ship while feeling distracted. Disconnected. Frustrated.
Not because anything was wrong, but because I was being revealed from the inside out. And I didn’t even see it coming.
Let me explain.
What surfaced in me was surprising: seeing photos of Rebekah in a room with incredible leaders triggered something deep. One photo in particular hit me hard. She was posing alone with a hero of mine—Dan Martell.
He’s strong. Smart. Successful. And he’s been through a lot to get there. Not perfect by any means, but I’ve got mad respect for his journey.
I’ve been around a lot of high-performance, $100M+ business leaders in my life. But what I saw in that picture was something I’ve never seen so clearly in another man.
He was 100% himself. No ego, pretense, or perception.
Just authentic. Unashamed. Real.
But you see, that photo wasn’t about him. It was about me. It was a mirror. A painful, powerful mirror. I instantly felt the distance between where I am and where I know I want to go.
Not jealousy—clarity.
Sure, I felt small. But I didn’t feel small because of who he is. I felt small because of who I am vs who I want to be. Who I’m becoming.
I want to be the kind of man whose presence creates feelings like that. The guy others seek out—not because of popularity or desperation, but because of who I’ve become.
In order to enter a new level, you must face a new devil.
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And the hard truth? I’m not there yet. But I’m becoming.
Outgrowing My Current Operating System
This isn’t the first time I’ve felt this way. Probably not yours either.
I’ve been here before many times:
- Renting our first house, trying to build a better life but unsure how.
- Running my business solo, needing a team but not knowing how to acquire, lead, or scale one.
- Scaling our business, stuck under the emotional and operational weight of limiting beliefs.
Every time, the story is the same: I have a vision, but can’t yet integrate it.
That’s what I call the visionary’s dilemma. We can dream. We can start. But we get stuck in the middle—between vision and execution.
Elite leadership is about embodying both. Not bouncing between binaries. But building a bridge between the two. That’s where power lives.
Vision without integration is just emotional pleasure.
Execution without vision is just empty productivity.
That’s the leader no one can stop. That’s the leader I want to be.
If you’re reading this, maybe you’ve felt this too:
- “I want greatness. I don’t want comfort. But I feel caged.”
- “I can see the vision, create plans, and even start action. But I struggle to sustain and scale it.”
- “I want recognition, inspiration, connection. I want to be seen.”
- “I have systems and tools… so why don’t they take me where I want to go?”
If these statements resonate with you, let me say this clearly:
You’re not broken. You’re becoming someone who can build the bridge between who you are and who you need to be.
The fog you feel? It’s not confusion. It’s clarity burning away the OLD you to make room for the NEW you.
Want more sales? More awareness? More momentum? Good.
But here’s the uncomfortable truth:
Business problems are just personal problems in disguise.
The biggest bottleneck in your business might be you.
This isn’t about tactics. It’s about transformation.
If you want more people to hire you, your product, service, or team—you have to first be willing to hire yourself and become the leader who’s worth paying the rates you’re asking.
No more blaming markets. No more hiding behind process. It’s time to look directly in the mirror and face your true self.
4 Routines You Actually Need
Here’s what I’ve seen (in myself and others) as the real unlock:
1. Emotional Anchoring (No Floating)
Create a simple ritual that grounds you each day:
“What am I building today? Why does it matter?” Let emotional clarity drive consistent action.
2. Collaborative Integration (No Lone Wolves)
Start the thing, yes—but then build it with others. Leadership is sustained through relationship, not isolation.
You don’t need relationship to start. You need relationship to sustain.
3. Rhythmic Execution (Discipline Over Drama)
Create habits that take you where you want to go. Then, pick your minimum viable reps for and do them relentlessly. For me?
- Daily personal growth habits
- Daily business growth habits
- Daily energy & fulfillment habits
4. Simple Tracking & Feedback (No Overbuilding)
Track identity and energy, not just tasks. Ask: “Did I act like the man I want to be today?”
I journal a few times a week and allow myself to reflect and get feedback on my progress.
Make Your Growth Match Your Ambition
I don’t write this as a guru. I write this as a man in the process.
Sure, I may be developing expertise in growing and scaling businesses. But I’ve been where you are, I know what it’s like, and I’ve seen the other side.
If you’re early in process and feel stuck? I want to help you get clear fast.
Because I’ve learned a key lesson: when you work to build the bridge between vision and execution—you become unstoppable.
It’s a journey of also bridging the gap between strategy and emotion, confidence and humility. When you do that your family, your business, and your team can’t help but grow with you.
It’s automatic.
That’s what I want to coach growth-minded leaders into.
If you’re tired of watching yourself drift while knowing you’re meant for more—it’s time to stop playing safe and start getting support.
Not show up perfect. Not look polished. Just be present.
Want to make your growth match your ambition? Let’s start the conversation.